We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

Gabor Mate: Your Partner Choice Reveals Everything! The Hidden Cost of Ignoring Trauma

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In this episode, Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned expert on trauma, stress and addiction, reveals how childhood experiences and emotional suppression deeply shape our relationships and overall wellbeing. He explains how unresolved trauma from our early years can lead to stress and challenges in adult relationships, and offers powerful insights on how embracing vulnerability and authenticity can foster healing and transformation in both one's personal life and relationships.

Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or seeking personal growth, Dr. Maté’s wisdom provides a path to healing and improvement, by understanding the root causes of emotional suppression and learning to live more authentically.

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..and his latest book, The Myth of Normal - https://g2ul0.app.link/gOaWoFWySNb/

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00:00 Introduction

01:52 Career Change Tips for Older Adults

04:27 How the Mind-Body Connection Impacts Relationships

11:51 How to Choose the Right Partner for Long-Term Happiness

13:08 Why Authenticity Matters in and out of Relationships

16:19 How Childhood Attachments Shape Your Adult Relationships

18:25 How to Be Your Most Authentic Self the Power of Saying No

28:41 How Social Status Affects Relationships

29:54 Different Types of Stress and How to Manage Them

36:37 Is Your Partner Hurting Your Well-Being

44:54 How to Develop a Secure Attachment in Relationships

49:10 The Health Effects of Avoidant and Anxious Attachment Styles

54:03 The Link Between Addiction and Attachment Styles

01:02:15 What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You

01:05:41 How Many People Are Living with Trauma Today

01:07:30 How to Heal from Trauma and Move Forward

01:12:02 Important Topics That Need More Attention

01:15:24 Most Memorable Conversations on Relationships

01:17:24 Key Takeaways from This Discussion

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