Demystifying Mental Toughness

256 The Immature Brain: How To Help An Emotional Child

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Episode notes

In this podcast episode, David focuses on the emotional control aspect of mental toughness.  Where he discusses the emotional states that children may experience before and during competitions and matches.  He shares a personal story about his son's first competitive league football match, highlighting the typical nervousness and arousal levels children and parents experience. 

David also emphasises the fact children have an immature brain and draws on psychological research which highlights the need for parents and coaches to adopt a calm, patient and supportive approach, recognising they act as a role model and that children easily pick up on their behaviours and reactions.  

Key Learning Points:

  • It’s important for parents, parent-coaches and coaches to reflect and recognise the emotional state and arousal levels their children and players experience before and during competitive events and matches, as well as their own levels of arousal and how this can impact their children and players.

  • It’s possible to consider ways to make the experience calmer for children, listening to their needs and wishes before and during competitions and matches. 

  • For some children, allowing them to use electronic devices, bringing a comfort item in the car, or avoiding discussions about their sport can be useful ideas.

  • Arguably, focusing on highlighting your child's strengths and positive experiences when providing advice or support is more beneficial before and during a match, than overwhelming them with too much information, especially negatives.

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