That's Where I'm At
The Narcissist’s Playbook: Chelli's Strategies for Overcoming Narcissistic Patterns
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Navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic relationships can be a particularly daunting and emotionally draining experience for women. Many find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil, often sacrificing their own needs and identities to appease their narcissistic partners. However, there is hope for breaking free from these destructive patterns and reclaiming one's self-worth. By understanding the narcissist's playbook, female survivors can arm themselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to heal, grow, and ultimately thrive beyond the shadow of narcissistic abuse.
In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Chelli Pumphrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma and recovery from narcissistic abuse. The discussion explores the complexities of narcissistic relationships, offering valuable insights on recognizing patterns, breaking cycles, and healing from trauma. Chelli delves into various aspects of narcissism, including its origins, common survivor experiences, and effective strategies for overcoming narcissistic patterns. She emphasizes the importance of journaling, understanding attachment styles, and engaging in trauma therapy.
Chelli Pumphrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma, adult attachment, and recovery from narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Chelli is the author of "Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships" and offers a holistic, mind-body-spirit approach to therapy.
As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Chelli brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to help survivors recognize and overcome narcissistic behaviors. Her unique blend of traditional and integrative therapies, including EMDR, psychospiritual growth, Reiki, and ketamine-assisted therapies, provides a comprehensive toolkit for healing and personal growth.
Tune in to learn more about effective strategies for recognizing and overcoming narcissistic behaviors, empowering women to establish healthier boundaries, and cultivating fulfilling relationships that honor their authentic selves.
Timestamps
[02:53] Are we more diagnosing or being more aware of narcissism?
[07:58] How Chelli got into being a trauma professional
[13:07] How your brain gets trained
[17:41] Common things survivors say about narcissists
[19:45] The origin of narcissism
[24:32] Journaling narcissists’ patterns
[27:31] How to break narcissist patterns
[33:20] Attachment styles
[35:37] Therapy and narcissism
[41:48] Things you will benefit from working on yourself
[42:56] Chelli’s thoughts on PTSD
[45:27] Trauma therapy training
Notable Quotes- “1% of the United States population is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.”
- “If you think there is an issue, you just need strategy.”
- “It’s important to talk to a therapist or do other kinds of holistic therapy as well.”
- “Do not go start dating when you are in the middle of a separation.”
- “You must work on healing trauma with trauma therapy.”
RESOURCES:
MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW CHELLI: https://www.chellipumphrey.com
https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey
https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey
C (COMPLEX)-PTSD DEFINITION: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd
DOG WHISTLING DEFINITION: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-a-dog-whistle-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Dog%20whistles%20are%20also%20used,person%20they%20wish%20to%20devalue.
ATTACHMENT STYLES: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence