Courageous Dreamers Win

06. SELF-LOVE Isn’t Selfish

Courageous Dreamers Win

Published: 26 March 2025 at 09:00 Europe/London

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Self-love isn’t a luxury or a trend. It’s a daily decision to treat yourself with the same kindness you offer everyone else. In this episode, Nesha Pai breaks down what self-love truly means and why it’s central to living a fulfilling life. She reflects on her own upbringing in East Tennessee, where societal pressures made self-acceptance difficult, and shares how learning to turn inward with grace and honesty changed everything.

Nesha challenges the idea that self-love is about bubble baths and affirmations. Instead, she reframes it as an ongoing practice built on how we think, speak, and care for ourselves. From setting boundaries to honoring your body, she offers strategies to replace self-criticism with compassion.

This episode touches on comparison, perfectionism, and the myth that self-love is selfish. Nesha makes the case that when we care for ourselves, we expand our capacity to support others. Her message is simple: self-love fuels confidence, resilience, and true fulfillment.

Quotes

“Self-love is accepting yourself without conditions, setting boundaries that protect your peace, showing yourself grace when you make mistakes, and taking care of your mind, body, and spirit because you deserve to feel good.” (02:58 | Nesha Pai)
“Just like we learn to be hard on ourselves, we can also learn to be kind to ourselves.” (05:09 | Nesha Pai)
“Your body isn’t just something to look at. It is the vessel, the vehicle that carries your soul through your life.” (07:40 | Nesha Pai)
“Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from others. It allows you to give more freely from a place of fullness, not depletion.” (13:21 | Nesha Pai)
“You are worthy of love exactly as you are—right now. Not when you lose weight, not when you land your dream job, not when you’re in a relationship. None of that. Right now, in this moment.” (14:05 | Nesha Pai)